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In this video were going to talk about how human beings handle regret
#1 - Set The Bar, Incredibly High
#2 - Make Sure You Have No Regrets
#3 - Become ‘Ungettable’
Regret, one of our favourite things to talk about, and I've done multiple videos and articles on this. But first, how to make an ex regret breaking up with you, you need to understand how regret works. Specifically, how humans deal with regret and how they deal with that.
I decided to look at what human beings' greatest regrets were, and to be honest I was not shocked by the results.
Things like lost loves were common, wishing they had treated their spouse or children better, wishing they had a better job that left them more fulfilled. Nothing really shocked me. But after enough research I started to notice a pattern.
A lot of people tend to have regret when it comes to their “Ideal Self”. With this belief that if everything worked out for them, they would live their lives in a certain way.
They have a picture of how their life would be, and most of us walked through life where we are striving to what we want, our ideal self, ideal job, ideal person that we want. We have this ideal version of how our lives are supposed to be.
Well it turns out that most people “Regret” when they’re on their death beds that they didn’t fulfil their ideal self and how their life was supposed to be.
So, if one wants to make an ex regret the breakup then they must make their ex feel that they lef their ideal relationship in the dust.
Easier said than done, but I’m going to give you some tips to do just that
#1 – Set The Bar, Incredibly High
Alternatives are important in the commitment strategy. When an ex breaks up with you, they believe that they can do “better than you” and the next person they meet will be compared to the bar that you set.
The interesting thing here is that we tend to romanticise the past, especially when were in a new relationship. Often times you’ll find an ex will regret the break up is when they’ve spent time with someone else.
The important things to do is to find ways to highlight the peak of your past relationship, so when you’re talking with your ex make sure you do or say things that will make him remember some of those positive past experiences. That can help raise the bar that he is comparing the new girl to.
A way to get an ex to romanticise the past is by using one of the five senses, specifically the sense of smell.
#2 – Make Sure You Have No Regrets
One of peoples’ biggest regrets is not going after someone that they thought might have been “The One”. Infact you may be experiencing this feeling as you’re letting family and friends in on what you’re trying to do. I can only assume that most of you who are sitting here watching this video have interest in winning that ex back.
When you tell your friends and family, they normally don’t match your enthusiasm about getting the ex back, but if in years to come and you think that you’re going to wake up two or three years from now, are going to regret not trying to get your ex back, don’t let anyone’s opinions deter you.
What you’re trying to achieve here is very difficult, you’re trying to change someone’s mind. But if you try your best and put your best foot forward through this process then you can go to bed knowing that you tried your best. You don’t have to regret that decision.
#3 – Become ‘Ungettable’
So, we’ve already established that we need your ex to thinking that he has given up on his ideal version of a relationship, with you and the relationship of his dreams.
Well it’s now time to become the best version of yourself, where you max out the best possible life for yourself.
Do your own research about what people's biggest regrets were before they died, and look at how many of those things align with your life right now. As humans we are weird not to think about the end of our lives, but it is the same destination that we share.
Interestingly enough, every single person when they die, will have regrets, its jus the people who minimize those regrets the most end up living the most fulfilling lives.
You see, people who are ‘Ungettable’, obtain the thing that everyone wants but no one has, understands maybe the best way to deal with death is to exhaust yourself in live so that there is nothing left. Essentially live well.
Living your life this way is that your ex will start to take notice, and the more ‘ungettable’ you get the higher that bar will be for your ex to compare other girls against. And that’s how you get your ex to regret the break up.
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